When I first heard this album, I instantly fell in love with this song, just as I did with this video. Bey is just so beautiful, the song is so lovely (shoutout to the musical genius of The Dream), and such a cute video. Congrats to her!
Picture this: I'm home on a blessed Friday evening in Atlanta, GA. I'm in my comfy socks, pajama pants and an over-sized T-shirt lovingly given to me by a school I previous performed at earlier last year. It's warm, and I'm on the phone with a friend of mine speaking about random things like families and triathlons. I see a number I don't recognize come up on the call waiting. I click over to hear a woman's voice.
In a very professional and sweet tone, I hear, "Hello, is this Shanelle Gabriel?" I say 'yes' thinking it's kind of late to be getting phone calls for bookings, but okay. I ask her her name, and she mumbles it and continues:
"Do you know (Insert guy's name here)?" The name doesn't ring a bell, and I tell her so. She names a group that I know of and performed with a few months ago. I'm not an instigator or gossiper so I won't say the gospel group's name. She says the name again and I vaguely connect it to one of the members who I briefly spoke with about working on a future project with. That was back in June. I hadn't spoken to him since then. I say, "Oh, yes, I now who you're talking about. What's up?"
"Did he tell you he was married?"
Rather random. Most artists don't come up to me after a show and say, "Hey I like your work. I'm married. So who's your producer? Those beats are dope." I tell her no and that there was no reason it would have came up. The conversation didn't go in that direction, so how would I know? More importantly, why would I care?
"Well, I just wanted to clear that up with you, so that everything was known."
She says this in a sweet voice and elaborates a little more on that being her husband, how long they've been together, etc. I tell her that I'm a singer, and him having my information had to do with business. She should have stopped once she saw that she had to go into detail for me to know who the heck her husband was. She interrupts my thoughts.
"Oh really? What type of music do you sing?"
I tell her a lil bit of R&B, inspirational. She sweetly says, "Oh so you're a Christian?" Nah, I'm an atheist that happens to love Richard Smallwood and The Clark Sisters. "Yes, I am," I reply.
"Well, then, may God bless you, your music, and all your endeavors. Have a wonderful weekend." I say, "You too," click the phone over, and laugh LOUDLY.
Now, this goes out to my sisters...Women have a habit of barking up the wrong tree. Fighting the woman their man has been talking to instead of fighting the person they ACTUALLY agreed to be monogamous with. If you think your man is being unfaithful or dishonest, YOU NEED TO TAKE THAT GARBAGE UP WITH HIM!!! Not with the girls he may have in his phone or who he works with. It is HIS JOB to let his female friends know that he is with you. If you have to do it for him, you both need counseling. Maybe you don't even need to be with him. Calling another woman's phone to mark your territory comes off as sad, insecure, and is a somewhat pathetic attempt to be the glue to keep you both together. You cannot save a relationship all by yourself. If he is interested in someone else, calling that person will not change the situation. He will just find a new place to hide the numbers.
Understand that I had no clue who she was talking about, and because I am a Christian woman, I did not let the Devil let me tell her off the way I would have in my younger years. This is not my first time being called by a woman regarding the behaviors of her man. I cannot force him to be honest about his marital status, and my ignorance to his situation cannot be held against me. I've witnessed many a chick fight over a cheating man and watched the man stand back laughing or slink away without any scars.
Ladies! No more! Let's stop barking up the wrong tree, and put an end to the cat fights. It's 2009, a new year. Let him do the spring cleaning, not you. Leave his phone alone. And please don't call me about him unless you want to pray.
For all the trouble she went through, I probably should have asked her to buy my CD.
THE “fact” that junk food is cheaper than real food has become a reflexive part of how we explain why so many Americans are overweight, particularly those with lower incomes. I frequently read confident statements like, “when a bag of chips is cheaper than a head of broccoli ...” or “it’s more affordable to feed a family of four at McDonald’s than to cook a healthy meal for them at home.”
This is just plain wrong. In fact it isn’t cheaper to eat highly processed food: a typical order for a family of four — for example, two Big Macs, a cheeseburger, six chicken McNuggets, two medium and two small fries, and two medium and two small sodas — costs, at the McDonald’s a hundred steps from where I write, about $28. (Judicious ordering of “Happy Meals” can reduce that to about $23 — and you get a few apple slices in addition to the fries!)
In general, despite extensive government subsidies, hyperprocessed food remains more expensive than food cooked at home. You can serve a roasted chicken with vegetables along with a simple salad and milk for about $14, and feed four or even six people. If that’s too much money, substitute a meal of rice and canned beans with bacon, green peppers and onions; it’s easily enough for four people and costs about $9. (Omitting the bacon, using dried beans, which are also lower in sodium, or substituting carrots for the peppers reduces the price further, of course.)
Another argument runs that junk food is cheaper when measured by the calorie, and that this makes fast food essential for the poor because they need cheap calories. But given that half of the people in this country (and a higher percentage of poor people) consume too many calories rather than too few, measuring food’s value by the calorie makes as much sense as measuring a drink’s value by its alcohol content. (Why not drink 95 percent neutral grain spirit, the cheapest way to get drunk?)
Besides, that argument, even if we all needed to gain weight, is not always true. A meal of real food cooked at home can easily contain more calories, most of them of the “healthy” variety. (Olive oil accounts for many of the calories in the roast chicken meal, for example.)In comparing prices of real food and junk food, I used supermarket ingredients, not the pricier organic or local food that many people would consider ideal. But food choices are not black and white; the alternative to fast food is not necessarily organic food, any more than the alternative to soda is Bordeaux.
The alternative to soda is water, and the alternative to junk food is not grass-fed beef and greens from a trendy farmers’ market, but anything other than junk food: rice, grains, pasta, beans, fresh vegetables, canned vegetables, frozen vegetables, meat, fish, poultry, dairy products, bread, peanut butter, a thousand other things cooked at home — in almost every case a far superior alternative.
“Anything that you do that’s not fast food is terrific; cooking once a week is far better than not cooking at all,” says Marion Nestle, professor of food studies at New York University and author of “What to Eat.” “It’s the same argument as exercise: more is better than less and some is a lot better than none.”
THE fact is that most people can afford real food....
(Read the rest of the article here: http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/25/opinion/sunday/is-junk-food-really-cheaper.html?_r=4&ref=opinion)